and are eventually left to deal with the consequences of pursuing an infatuation as if it is love. At best, the person does not return your feelings black wedding hat and you are forced to let the infatuation go, however painfully. At worst, they return your gestures, and you make a commitment to someone only to slowly realize you have committed to the person you thought they boys sun hat were, not the person they are.To some degree it is healthy for all of us to dump the "check list" of specific, nitpicking qualities we have for a partner.
I can go to a church I don't believe in for them" or "I can pretend it doesn't bother me that they are so flirtatious with other people"), you are silencing yourself. You are not being genuine in the relationship, and if they love you, they love something you have molded boys winter hats to fit them. Ultimately a relationship built on infatuation will crack, because the foundation isn't strong enough to maintain it.The person you love should become a part of your world, and maybe even half of it, but neither of you should ever be revolving around the other's.
No matter how much the people in your life love you, very few of them are going to have the nerve to outright tell you that a relationship is wrong for you. It's the people who care the most enough to compromise the way you feel about them in order to keep you safe and happy who will tell you that a relationship seems off. It will be your first impulse to be angry with them. You will regret it later, if they become yet another casualty hats and fascinators when the relationship in question inevitably ends.
The other friends, the ones who don't say it outright, will still give hints if you're looking for them. They may be as blatant as talking about some other person they could set you up with, or as subtle as avoiding the topic of your relationship altogether. You may not acknowledge these behaviors consciously, but you'll find yourself digging at them, bringing the person up more often, unconsciously trying to gage their reaction and trying to get some kind of answer from them
that aligns with the way you think that aligns with the way you think you feel.